🟠 Dear Modern Introvert, you have a story to tell.


It’s hard being a modern human. We’re being bombarded left and right by conflicting ideas.

Speak louder! Keep quiet!

You should do more! Less is more!

Your problem is you don’t speak up! Your tone of voice is causing you problems!

It’s more crucial than ever to be able to find clarity in this increasingly confusing world. Our minds and beliefs are being pulled left and right by people with opposing points of view and way more influence than us.

As an absolute introvert myself, I know how it feels to be overlooked, interrupted, and talked over by louder extroverts.

I even had someone told me before that she was told not to speak because she’s an introvert.

I found that absurd, offensive, and baseless.

Does it mean her opinions are less valuable and her contributions less significant, just because she’s an introvert? Hell no!

And if you feel like there’s no point in you speaking up because no one cares anyway, today is the day you stop believing in that.

You see, our beliefs shape the way we act.

And today is the day you stop living small just because others say so.

Introducing The Path of The Modern Introvert

The confidence you need is already inside of you.

We just have to find it, hone it, and then let it shine into the world.

Introverts often feel like we’re at a disadvantage. While that may sometimes be true, the narrative we tell ourselves matter more than what the world, or our emotions, make us believe.

Our introvert strength lies not in our silence, not in our numbers, but in our ability to play the games that we can win.

Think about it.

Introverts are deep thinkers, empathetical listeners, and intentional leaders.

BUT

We often suffer from what I call Introvert Syndrome.

Here are common signs of Introvert Syndrome:

  • feeling misunderstood and overlooked (even though you have great ideas)
  • often labelled as “shy” or “soft-spoken” (just because you think before you speak)
  • needing a lot of prep time and recharge time (before and after ANY event that requires interaction, online and offline)

If you’re nodding away, you are not alone.

I have Introvert Syndrome too.

The difference between me and you, probably, is that I’ve learned to get rid of Introvert Syndrome and embrace my introvert strengths.

That’s my purpose of writing this newsletter anyway.

So how do we go from quiet, insignificant introvert to becoming a secure, confident Modern Introvert?

You’re not being fake

I hate it when people describe someone who is outspoken in a certain situation but is usually introverted as “fake”.

Please bruh, just because someone knows how to tune their Charisma Dial, doesn’t mean their fake.

What is a Charisma Dial, I hear you ask?

It’s this concept I coined when thinking about how extroversion and introversion is a spectrum.

And context matters. Tune your Charisma Dial based on the situation.

If you’re at an event to meet new people, turn your Dial up so you put yourself out there and be seen. If you need some alone time to recharge, turn the Dial way down until you’re ready to see sunlight again.

Of course, know yourself enough to be aware of when you’re being truly inauthentic to yourself.

The world likes to see things as black or white, when in actual fact, most things are grey.

In upcoming newsletters, I’ll expand on the idea of The Modern Introvert in deeper ways. You’re going to enjoy it.

For now, know that just because you’re making the effort to put yourself out there when the situation arises, doesn’t warrant you being called fake. Because you’re not.

The Future of The Modern Introvert

I believe in a future where introverts are not afraid to dream big and live large.

A future where introverts boldly pursue their life goals and fulfill their potential by speaking up and standing out.

A future where introverts are aware of Introvert Syndrome, but are also aware of their power to overcome it.

This future may already be occurring now, in pockets of society you have not yet encountered, in circles you have not yet known.

And I aspire to bring us all there.

If you’re an introvert who feels invisible right now, I hope you can see this for yourself too.

Believe me, I’m rooting for you.


Your introverted charisma buddy,
Mich

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