Welcome to your Weekly Charisma Missive 🟠 A newsletter where I write about charisma, communication, along with actionable tips to boost confidence, craft your character, or amplify connection. I'm thrilled to have you here.
🟠 what's your ..number? 😳
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“What’s your number?” I asked innocently. She hesitated, looking back at me with the 🤨 look. Suspicious. “Are you (First Name + Last Name)?” I switched tactics. “Oh yes,” she answers, still with raised eyebrows. “Awesome, here you go!” I handed her the pack of coffee beans she ordered for delivery to be picked up at our outlet. It wasn’t until she was out of sight, that it dawned on me why she looked to sus. Was she… No way… Did she really think..? Oh dear… Was she wondering why I was ASKING FOR HER NUMBER?! NOOOOOOOO~ I moaned in horror and despair, hiding my face in my hands. I meant what was her order number, as verification that the order did indeed belong to her. Not her actual phone number! You see, as much as I am a meticulous person and (almost) always pay extra attention to details, I slip up sometimes. That’s why specificity is important in communication. And context matters. We might know exactly what we mean in our minds. But that’s also the issue. We are the only ones who know 100% what we mean. Everyone else deciphers what we mean by how we communicate. It’s no wonder why so much miscommunication happens. Thankfully for you, you don’t have to go through the embarrassment I went through to learn the same lesson I did. Next time, whenever you’re requesting for something, be more specific! The more details the better. I promise you’ll prefer saying too much, than saying too little and end up having an unfortunate misunderstanding. Totally avoidable. If you’ve encountered something similar, do share it with me! I’d love to hear your story. Only if you’re comfortable doing so, of course. Your partner in charisma, |
Mich
Welcome to your Weekly Charisma Missive 🟠 A newsletter where I write about charisma, communication, along with actionable tips to boost confidence, craft your character, or amplify connection. I'm thrilled to have you here.
Yesterday, I took a nap at 9am woke up around 2pm for lunch. Before you judge, I've been staying up the past few nights, working on something exciting for you. More details at the end of this email. “You look like you just woke up.” the aunty at my usual noodle stall remarked, nonchalant. I looked back at her, blinking, with a blank look on my face 😳 “Oh.. oh yeah I uh worked late last night..” I mumbled sheepishly. Dang! I cursed myself internally. It must be the sleepy look I was wearing....
Yup… that and people screw up sometimes. And I sure darn screwed up this time! When I left my healthcare job in October last year, I was so sure my writing output would go from 1 to 100. Surely, with all the time I have now on my hand, I’ll write tonnes and tonnes of words daily, right? WRONG. I was so wrong. Between juggling life and self doubt and taking care of my mental wellbeing, I totally dropped the ball of daily writing. As a result, my writing muscle and connections and, ironically,...
Happy 2026 my dear Charisma Cultivators! I hope the first half of January has been good to you. I hope you’re still keeping up with your new year resolutions and working towards your goals. Was there something that has stood out to you so far? For me, I just returned from a long trip to the beautiful island of Tasmania. It was my first time outside of Asia, and the new environment allowed me the time and space to reflect and plan. getting to see wombats up close 😍 definitely my highlight of...